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Being Patient Is Doing Something

It's easy to feel like you're not doing enough when you're waiting for something to happen. This was the case for Marissa, who a little over a month ago just completed the Mayo Clinic's Pain Rehabilitation Clinic program. With the holidays and our kids at home, implementing the program's teachings proved to be a difficult undertaking. Despite wanting to do everything for her family and with her family, Marissa knew she needed to focus on her own well-being. After weeks of practice, she became better at listening to her body and avoiding pushing herself too hard.

Achieving progress wasn't easy, as Marissa has a personality of "more is more." However, after a month of self-care, she was making significant improvements. Unfortunately, that progress took a step back when she was unexpectedly asked to be patient again. Following an unrelated doctor visit, Marissa was advised to undergo a surgery to remove some precancerous cells from her body, which has led to a slower-than-expected/wanted recovery. Marissa is learning that being patient is in itself a necessary act of doing something. At some point in everyone's life, we take a step back, reflect and realize we aren't the same person we were 5, 10, or 25 years ago. We aren't able to do what we once could at the pace we once could do it. Accepting that as reality is hard, but once we can, we are able to refocus on our new goals and expectations. She helped me with this when I went through my three joint replacements and needed to accept my new reality that I wasn't 20-something anymore! I'm now just trying to return the favor to her.

Thank you for keep Marissa in your thoughts. Her strength comes from the powerful support system she has with all of you. I will give another update in February.


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24 jun
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Marissa and Brent your team work to help each other through the health hurdles always amaze me. Thank you for the reminder of self care and practicing patience as a patient is a wonderful concept.

Your Blog and this sharing of your experience is giving me encouragement as an unexpected health set back has occurred with me as well after the wonderful PRC Program at the Mayo Clinic in Jacksonville . Marissa and Brent you are an inspiration to me and many others .

With deep Gratitude,


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Marissa DeVaul Parmer
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Thank you Alicia, my "twin" for such kind words. I am grateful we have met via PRC and continue to find friendship even if what we are going through might be different. Brent provides me great strength on a daily basis. We are by no means perfect, but we support eachother no matter what is thrown our way. 💜

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28 ene
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Thank you for this update, Brent (so well-written!)! I am so proud of Marissa for keeping an open mind and her willingness to shift her mindset to include much-needed self-care. I know it has not been easy, especially with this latest medical setback. Please tell her how much we love her💜

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28 ene
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Thank you Brent for the update! I understand exactly what your talking about. I did the Cleveland Clinic Chronic Pain Rehab a few years ago. It is eye-opening what I learned in a month's working on "you". It's a rough walk of life when you see what others do but you on the sideline. I have lost a lot of family and friend support over the years.

No matter where you are on your journey that's exactly where you need to be. The next road is ahead. ~ Oprah

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